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我們學佛就是要學得心專,在家人,家是因夫與妻,共築愛之巢,孵育親子鳥,教其學而時習數飛,父母為子女之典範,若能如此,大家自己知道自己的使命。

為了這個家,這個家一定有夫妻,古人說成家立業,先幫他娶妻之後,有了一個家庭才開始去創業。
甚至到現在都是如此,我們人出生,父母撫養我們,撫養到成年,除了學業之外,年齡適婚時就開始選擇對象,選擇了對象就開始成婚,之後就成家,所以現在小家庭很多,娶妻之後就到外面,自己成立一個小家庭。


這個家庭就是要有,夫妻共同的愛,就像鳥既然結合了,牠們就要開始共同去叨草,慢慢築起鳥巢,若是燕子,燕子牠們就會啣土,來到人家的門口,屋簷、房子裡,一口一口去啣回來的土,仔細的築起一個巢。
若是外面的小麻雀,牠們就用草,一支一支叨回來築一個窩,這就是夫妻合心協力,來共築愛之巢,這是夫妻同心愛的力量。


開始母鳥要生蛋了,生蛋就要孵蛋,公鳥母鳥要合作,好好讓這隻母鳥能全心孵蛋,等到小鳥孵出來時,母鳥就會到外面覓食,叨回來的東西,對著小鳥口對口餵養,這餵撫育出親子鳥,鳥巢裡面除了公鳥母鳥之外,還多出了小鳥,想想,這個鳥窩是多麼溫暖。
而且小鳥生出來了,慢慢養育,翅膀差不多硬了就開始要教,公鳥母鳥輪流教小鳥,教牠學會如何飛,所以孔子說「學而時習之」,如鳥數飛,學習就像這樣,慢慢教牠,教牠怎麼飛,開始飛的時候,展開翅膀,要起飛時也會摔倒,親鳥還是會教牠,不斷讓牠展翅,不斷讓牠飛,不斷摔倒,但是,還是讓牠不斷在學,這就是父母如何教育子女,和鳥的家庭一樣。
所以我們的社會,要有一個很美滿的家庭,這個美滿的家庭也要夫妻同心,才能有一個很溫馨的家庭,若是有了孩子,父母要更合心,和心互愛,這就是教孩子的心態,所以父母是子女的典範,每個人盡這個責任,這個社會的家庭,家家都幸福,社會當然就祥和了,這是來自於每一個家庭,每一對夫妻,每一對夫妻出於每個人,內心的修養。


所以要一個家庭成為溫暖的家,是自己的責任,每個人若管好自己的責任,自然這個家庭就能照顧得很好,孩子就能教育得很好。
父母教育子女
應如孵育親子鳥
教其學而時習數飛


以身作則為典範
夫妻同心守分盡責
家庭才會美滿
家家都幸福
社會自然能祥和

我們前面說過了,人若是不守貞節,無論是男女之間,沒有守好夫婦之道,除了三途的劇報,三途是地獄、餓鬼、畜生,這三途極苦的就是地獄,再來就是餓鬼道,再來是畜生道,這都是因為做人的時候,沒有守好人倫規則,造了很多的業力,殺、盜、淫、妄、酒這五戒,或是犯了十惡的業力,十惡業也好,或是五戒也好。

總而言之,若是犯了就是惡,惡,萬惡淫為首。
我們昨天說過了,除了受盡了地獄報應,他還要到畜生道,又再輪迴來人道,來到人道淫業的報應,不只是報應在自己本身,連家屬子女,妻子、孩子都讓我們不隨意,因為這是一種因果業力。


在地獄、在畜生道,已經受盡了苦報,來到人間,要不就遇上先生心不專,加上兒子媳婦,有的遇到太太不貞,所以還有兒子媳婦,這都叫做眷屬,哪怕兩個人都很顧家,但是,還是有其他的眷屬,讓我們操心,總而言之,這都叫做餘報,也叫做華報。

這種業未盡,還牽引其他的枝節因緣,還是一樣使我們操心,對我們時有華報,這就是因緣果報。
學佛,我們應該要了解,現在再說:
淫欲既有如此惡果
是故今日至誠
求哀懺悔

是的,淫欲就是有這麼多的惡果,我們應該要很虔誠,這個淫欲有的時候淫他婦,人家是有夫之婦,我們去誘拐,或是去強逼,這種使人夫妻不睦,或是破人家眷,或是長幼含羞。


從前的人很守情操,無論是妻子、孩子,若是身體被人污染,實在是恥辱很大,所以這種含羞,這是非常罪大惡極,所以因為如此,這分惡緣惡果,自然三途受報,還無法報盡,就再生人間。
你看,我們的人生,有多少都是叫苦的人生,這個苦是怎麼得到的苦呢?不問苦如何苦,問自己因緣如何造作的;在佛經中常常這麼說,無始以來,今生,問今生我又沒做錯,但是應該要問我們過去的因緣,所以我們今生才受這樣的果報,所以無因不成緣,無果不成報,所以這一定是有了因緣,所以我們要好好懺悔,再來又說:
又復無始以來
至於今日
或偷人妻妾
奪他婦女
侵陵貞潔
意思也是一樣,去侵犯別人的妻子,名為偷,這種不是光明正大的,他們互相約會,偷偷去約會,這就叫做偷,這個偷字,除了淫惡之外,又加上盜的惡,這就是偷,兩重罪,這兩種罪加起來。
或是侵犯寡婦,古代的人講究貞節非常重要,古代若是一個女人結婚之後,先生往生了,她如果能從頭一直到最終,守節很清淨,沒有和外界的男人有什麼污染,她能守住她的家庭,這種守節身心清淨的寡婦,皇帝也會頒給她一個聖旨,叫做貞節碑。
她的鄉里,也因為這個寡婦的貞節,皇帝頒給她一個貞節碑,連那個鄉里都受到光榮,你們想,這是古人重視女人的貞節,是多麼重視,所以若是去侵犯寡婦,這種污辱其貞潔節志,這是敗壞風化,同時也是敗壞國法,國法不容。
所以我們若是,多讀一些先賢古書,我們就知道,做一個人貞節的可貴,身心貞潔,這種志節就是守節,就是守規矩,這個志若沒有好好守好,這種敗壞風化,真的是國法不容,可見這是多麼嚴重的事,所以淫的業很重,心若起了這一念,總是什麼越軌的事,他都敢做,所以說萬惡淫為首,寡婦他都敢侵犯了,去玷污。
甚至還有的是:
污比丘尼 破他梵行
逼迫不道 濁心邪視
言語嘲調
這樣的罪更重,修行的這分貞節更不可犯,他去戲弄,或是不軌的心態等等,或者是去破掉他的梵行,就這樣「逼迫不道」,強迫他無法守在戒的軌道上,這樣「濁心邪視」,以不乾淨的心來看待,或是用這樣的心情來看待僧團,以言語去嘲弄人,去調戲人,這都是非常大的惡。
本來比丘尼持戒律儀,清修梵行,若是在他的身上起染污的心,只是起一個染污的心,或是有什麼樣的動作,害他破戒,罪同五逆。
所以心念,我們若沒有常常顧好,實在是差之毫釐,可能造五逆十惡的罪,就很容易造出來,下面再說:
或復恥他門戶
污賢善名
或於男子五種人所
起不淨行

這種「恥他門戶」,恥辱的心,我們人人應該要有廉恥,人若欠缺了廉恥,自己不守廉恥,不知羞恥,或是去污染賢聖的名聲,別人循規蹈矩,他卻想辦法去污染他,破壞他的善名,善的名聲,很清淨的名節。
就像剛才說過了,污寡婦、污辱寡婦,或是污清淨修行者的心,這種就是「污賢善名」。
或是,「於男子五種人所」,「起不淨行」,有的男人男不男、女不女,五種不男,這在法華經中也這麼說過,就是男不男、女不女,或是他的行為動作等等,就起不淨行,這就是抱恥含羞,讓這些想要守貞節,或是守人道,但是他去污染了,像這樣,獲罪非輕。
五種男人就是身心不健全的人,應該大家稍微想一下就知道,這都是宿世多淫欲,起不淨念之苦報。
除非能會遇佛法,或是遇到很好的宗教,受到做人宗旨的規範教育,才有辦法轉變他的心態,健全他的心理,所以說來我們何其有幸,身,人身已得,法,佛法已聞,所以我們人人時時要多用心。
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Lecturer: Master Zheng-Yan
Subject: Carry Out Your Duties with Unity and Mutual Love (
合心互愛盡責)

In learning Buddhism we learn to focus the mind. When a man and a woman get married and build their family, they nurture and teach their children by example. Parents are children’s role models. Everyone must knows his or her own duties within the family. The ancients said one must form a family before establishing a career. After one marries and starts a family, he can establish his career. This is true even today.

After we are born, our parents raise us until we reach adulthood. After graduating, one looks for a spouse and marries to start a family. There are many small households now. Once married, the couple moves out and forms their own small household. A family is built by a couple’s mutual love. They are like birds who, after they mate, work together to gather materials and build their nest.

Swallows, for example, will pick up mud with their beaks and bring it to the eaves of a house. They fly back and forth with mouthfuls of mud to carefully build a nest under the roof. Sparrows use strands of grass. They carry the grass strand by strand to build their nest. This is like a couple working together to build their home. It shows the power of their love for each other. When the female bird lays eggs, the male and female birds must cooperate so the mother bird can focus on hatching the eggs. When the eggs hatch, the mother has to find food. She brings things back in her mouth and feeds it carefully to her babies. This is how the baby birds are nurtured.

Besides the parent birds, now the nest has chicks. Such a home is filled with warmth. After the chicks are born, they must be brought up. When their wings are fully formed, it is time for the parents to take turns teaching them how to fly.

Confucius said, “Learn by practicing often.” This is how birds learn to fly. The birds gradually learn through practice. In the beginning, as they spread their wings to fly, they may fall.

They may fall. Yet the parent birds continue to teach them, to help them spread their wings and fly. Though they keep falling, the parents still encourage them to learn. This is how parents should teach their children.

Our society needs happy families. This requires a couple to be of one mind. If there are children, the parents need to be even more united and loving of each other in order to teach their children. Parents are the children’s role models.

If everyone fulfills his or her responsibilities, all families in society would be happy. Then society would be harmonious. This begins with each family, each couple, and each individual’s self cultivation. So to create a loving family, each individual must take care of his or her own responsibilities. Then naturally, we will take good care of our families and educate our children well.

Parents should nurture their children just as birds care for their young and teach them to fly. They must teach by example. A harmonious and responsible couple creates a happy family. If all families are content, society will naturally be peaceful.

As mentioned before, if one is not loyal to one’s spouse, one suffers severe retribution in the Three Evil Destinies of the Hell, Hungry Ghost and Animal Realms. Of the three, Hell is the most agonizing, followed by the Hungry Ghost Realm, then the Animal Realm. This is all a result of actions taken as humans that go against the moral codes of humanity. Much karma is created through killing, stealing, sexual misconduct, lying, drinking or committing the Ten Evils. Whether it is committing the Ten Evils or breaking the Five Precepts, once carried out, an evil is committed. Sexual misconduct is foremost among all evils.

As discussed yesterday, besides suffering retribution in the Hell and Animal Realms, some also suffer when reborn in the Human Realm. Not only will they suffer direct retribution, their spouse and children may cause them suffering. This is all due to karmic force.

After suffering immense pain in Hell and the Animal Realms, one is reborn as a person. Yet, one’s spouse will not be loyal and one will have problematic relationships with their children and in-laws. Then whole family is involved. Even if the couple is very loving, there is still the rest of the family that causes them to worry. In short, this is all Residual Retribution, or Flower Retribution.

When karma is not exhausted, it will attract other complicated conditions which will cause us to worry, leading to Flower Retributions. This is the karmic law of cause and effect. In learning Buddhism, we must understand this.

Then next passage indicates, “Lustful desires create such negative effects, so we should sincerely repent today.

Indeed, lust creates many negative effects. We really should be faithful. We might have committed sexual misconduct with another person’s wife through seduction or coercion. Sexual misconduct creates discord in couples, breaks up families or brings shame to the family. People in the past had strict moral standards. If one’s wife or child were physically violated, it brought great shame. So causing others shame in this way is an extremely evil transgression. Naturally, such evils lead one into the Three Evil Destinies to suffer. With Residual Retribution, one is reborn as human. There are many suffering individuals in the world. Where did this suffering come from? We should instead ask how we created the causes and conditions for suffering.

The Sutras often talk about Beginningless Time. If we have not done wrong in this life, it is past causes that create the effects we receive in this lifetime. Conditions cannot form without causes, and retributions cannot arrive without effects. It all begins with causes and conditions. So we must thoroughly repent.

The next verse reads, “Moreover, from Beginningless Time until today, we may have stolen others’ wives, abducted women and violated their chastity.”

Having an affair with someone’s wife is called “stealing.” Carrying on this kind of secret, extramarital relationship can be considered a form of stealing. Therefore, on top of the sexual misconduct, there is also the evil of stealing. This is two transgressions put together.

There is also dishonoring a window. In the past, chastity was very important. In ancient times, after a woman was married, if her husband died, and she remained single, never having relationships with other men and looking after her family, she would be recognized by the emperor with a chastity monument. This monument would bring honor and pride to the rest of her community. You can see that the ancients valued female chastity. So if one dishonored a window, one tarnished her chastity, transgressed moral boundaries and broke the law. If we study the writings of the ancient sages, we understand the value of chastity. Being physically and mentally chaste means following moral guidelines. If one fails to do so, one disregards ethics and goes against the law. This is very serious.

So the karma of sexual misconduct is severe. If these thoughts arise in the mind, one dares to commit such deviant actions as violating a widow. So sexual misconduct is foremost among all evils. Some even “defile a Bhiksuni, destroy one’s purity of conduct, force one to lose the way, view practitioners with defilement and mock them.”

These transgressions are even more severe. One should not violate practitioners’ chastity, mock or treat them with improper attitudes. If one destroys someone’s pure practice, it forces them to not abide by proper precepts. Having evil or defiled views or attitudes about practitioners or ridiculing them in speech and actions are both tremendously evil. Bhiksunis abide by precepts and practice purity. If one causes them to have impure thoughts or break the precepts, that is as evil as the Five Offenses. So if we do not always safeguard the mind, a slight deviance can easily lead to the Five Offenses or Ten Evils.

The next passage reads, “We may have dishonored someone’s household, smeared a virtuous and kind person’s name, or engaged in impure acts with Pandaka.”

One who dishonors others lacks shame. We all must have a sense of shame. Without a sense of shame, we may tarnish the reputations of virtuous individuals. Someone may act very properly, but we come up with ways to tarnish their good reputation and ruin their pure, untarnished name. This is like dishonoring widows or defiling the minds of pure practitioners. This is “smearing a virtuous person’s name”

We may have “engaged in impure acts with Pandaka.” Pandakas are men who are not whole. The Lotus Sutra depicts them as individuals who are neither men nor women, who engage in impure acts that bring shame to those who wish to remain chaste or abide by moral values. They may commit serious transgressions.

They are not whole physically and mentally. If we think about it, we will know that this is a retribution caused by lifetimes of sexual desire and impure conduct. Only by hearing the Buddha-Dharma or encountering wholesome religions that educate them with proper principles can people change their attitudes and thinking.

We are very fortunate to be born human and to hear the Buddha-Dharma. So we should always be mindful.

(Source: Da Ai TV 靜思晨語 法譬如水)
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